FEBRUARY 2, 2022 ~ LEAVE A COMMENT

Hi dear Friends,

I hope all of our families that have kids in school are finding restorative fun on their vacation weeks.

How are your kids doing with the news of war in Ukraine? I’d imagine there is a wide range of both their awareness and resulting emotions. And maybe the same for parents, too. It’s tricky to find a healthy balance of staying informed and not being consumed; of frantically trying to do something, anything, to offset devastation, or just feeling completely helpless; of living with guilt over the joyful elements in our lives, or giving ourselves permission to celebrate what is beautiful, even when people are experiencing loss and trauma at this very moment.

I recently spent time with a group of youth, as tensions were escalating in Ukraine, but before the attack began. They expressed their fears of the prospect of World War III, of being in very real danger, and not knowing how to handle that. This is the first time in their lives that most of them have been aware of this kind of tension in the world.

As I listened, I recalled similar feelings as the Gulf War was beginning when I was in 10th grade. It was terrifying to not have any context or understanding of what was happening, how bad it would get, or whether we were safe. What was really helpful was when my Biology teacher took time during class to explain what was happening and why, and to put parameters on what kinds of things were likely and not likely to happen. Even though she couldn’t promise us any kind of safe outcome, it just felt better to hear real talk from a trusted adult, and to have the space to share my fears with her and my peers. Before that, it had felt like news snippets were apocalyptic, while most adults around me weren’t talking about it.

Of course, every kid is different–by age, maturity, and so many other factors. Here is a New York Times article that came out this morning which I find is full of really good advice: “How to Talk to Kids About Ukraine.” It names some unexpected symptoms that may show that kids are anxious; it offers ways to help older youth balance their information intake; and reminds us of the ways that context of war in the eyes of our children and youth can be very different than it is for adults.

And you, dear parents, if you could use some explanation, would like to share your stories and feelings, or could use a time of connection to process the events in Ukraine, then join us on Thursday evening March 3rd at 7pm. You can come to the parish hall in person, or join by zoom.

Also, we have two social events on March 12th where we would love to see you, your families, and maybe even some dogs! See details below.

Finally, it’s time to start thinking about joining the April “Awakening” Challenge! Much like the April 2021 “Becoming” Challenge, this year’s project will be aimed at increasing our awareness of where we are right now, what’s unfolding around us, and how we want to be as we emerge into this spring. This is open to people of all ages! Participants will commit to trying to sit in an outdoor spot (your porch, lawn, woods, a park, or anywhere outside) every day in April for at least 10 minutes. To go with this sit each day, there will be a simple task in the form of an activity, prompt to ponder, short reading, or other thing related to the month’s church theme of “Awakening” in this context. More info coming soon, but if you already know you want in, then send me an email so you’ll be on the notification list for the materials, kickoff, and more. (And for those of you who wrote your letter in last year’s challenge, you’ll get those back at the end of March! 🙂)

As always, know that you are held in Love by a whole community.

🤟🏼♥️

Events Coming Right Up:

• Saturday, March 12th:
  • Dog-friendly outing at Wagon Hill Farm, 9:00-10:00am. This is a time where both humans and dogs can play outdoors together. Leashes are optional until 10am at that location. All are invited, whether you bring a dog or not!
  • Families Tuugether 5:00-7:30pm! Free date night for parents and social time for kids. Parents will connect together briefly over a conversation and then are free to spend time out however you’d like. Kids bring their dinner (or eat beforehand) and play with friends. RSVP by 5pm the day before: jendeldeo@southchurch-uu.org

Finally, if you haven’t yet, PLEASE REGISTER YOUR CHILDREN, whether you plan to attend regularly or not! It is tremendously helpful for us to keep track of who our young people are and what we need to know about them.CLICK HERE for RE registration!

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What you need to know this month… 

Click Linked Items for additional Details:

Click here for 2021-2022 RE Program Information

• Thursday,March 3rd:
  • Ukraine understanding and reflection, 7pm in the Social Hall, or join by zoom
• Sunday, March 6th:
  • Worship at 10:00a, Sermon offered by John Shea
  • Service will stream live on YouTube
  • Young Church meets downstairs following TFAA
  • Coming of Age meets with mentors 9:45-11:00, Piscataqua Room
  • 6th/7th grade Service Learning meets 10:00-11:00, Carson Room
  • OWL 7 meets 4:00-5:30, social hall
  • Senior Youth meets 4:00-5:30p Upstairs at Court St building
• Friday, March 11th:
  • 10th/11th grade OWL meets at Court St, 6:30-8:30p
• Saturday, March 12th:
  • Dog-friendly outing at Wagon Hill Farm, 9-10:00a. All are invited!
  • Families Tuugether, 5:00-7:30p. RSVP to JenDD
• Sunday, March 13th:
  • Worship at 10:00a, Sermon offered by Reverend Susan
  • Service will stream live on YouTube
  • Young Church meets downstairs following TFAA
  • Coming of Age meets with mentors 9:45-11:00, Piscataqua Room
  • 6th/7th grade Service Learning meets 10:00-11:00, Carson Room
  • OWL 7 meets 4:00-5:30, social hall
  • Senior Youth meets 4:00-5:30p for Learning Journey Session 3, Upstairs at Court St building
• Friday, March 18th:
  • 10th/11th grade OWL meets at Court St, 6:30-8:30p
• Sunday, March 20th:
  • Worship at 10:00a, Sermon offered by Kirsten
  • Service will stream live on YouTube
  • Young Church meets downstairs following TFAA
  • Coming of Age meets 9:45-11:00, Piscataqua Room
  • 6th/7th grade Service Learning meets 10:00-11:00, Carson Room
  • OWL 7 meets for special session 1:30-5:30pm, social hall
  • Senior Youth meets 4:00-5:30p Upstairs at Court St building
• Friday, March 25th:
  • 10th/11th grade OWL meets at Court St, 6:30-8:30p
• Sunday, March 27th:
  • Worship at 10:00a, Sermon offered by Reverend Susan
  • Service will stream live on YouTube
  • Young Church meets downstairs following TFAA
  • Coming of Age meets with mentors 9:45-11:00, Piscataqua Room
  • 6th/7th grade Service Learning meets 10:00-11:00, Carson Room
  • OWL 7 meets 4:00-5:30, social hall
  • Senior Youth meets 4:00-5:30p upstairs at Court St building
• Friday, April 1st:
  • 10th/11th grade OWL meets at Court St, 6:30-8:30p
• Sunday, April 3rd:
  • Worship at 10:00a, Sermon offered by Kirsten
  • Service will stream live on YouTube
  • Young Church meets downstairs following TFAA
  • Coming of Age meets WITH PARENTS 9:45-11:00, Piscataqua Room
  • 6th/7th grade Service Learning meets 10:00-11:00, Carson Room
  • OWL 7 meets 4:00-5:30, social hall
  • Senior Youth meets 4:00-5:30p upstairs at Court St building

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March’s Theme is “Renewing Faith“

Our UU faith in practice and action:

• Fun ways to renew covenants: Do you have a family covenant? Covenanting is an important part of UUism. A covenant outlines how people want to behave together and names the ways that they will create a safe and respectful space for all. We have a South Church Covenant of Right Relations, and we make covenants every fall in all of our RE classrooms. It’s important to revisit a covenant periodically, whether to address conflict in a group or to make sure the document is still relevant. A covenant is also really helpful for families or households for the same purposes, and some UU families create and maintain them.
  • In the spirit of Renewing Faith, if your family has a covenant, it may be time to freshen it up, and maybe even give it a twist to re-engage everyone. Try writing the different pieces of your covenant on strips of colored paper and join them into a paper chain. You can also add strips with each member’s name to show your promise to live by it. Doing an activity like this can help renew understanding in our homes and encourages us to think about how we treat each other.
  • OR, build a House of Covenant together, using these instructions and this template.
  • If you have never made a covenant before, check out this resource from the UUA to get started.
• Play Convene the Council (For tweens and teens): Great educational online game that parents and youth can do together to help understand the complexity of setting foreign policy.
• Story: “The Table Where Rich People Sit” (for younger kids and all ages): connects to monthly theme of “Renewing Faith” (in remembering what is most valuable in our lives.) Video of read-aloud, OR book might be available through library.
• Explore the 6th UU Principle and talk together about how we can connect to it in this moment.
• Renewing Faith in the beauty that surrounds us: Try sharing this poem together as a meditation, to stay present to what continues to be wonderful in our world. After pondering the poem, discuss what wishes you each might wish for your friends and family:

Chalice Lighting for mealtimes this month:

It’s February, and there are sparkly hearts everywhere.

But Friends, I am worried. I see children and youth struggling with anxiety and overwhelm, fear, fatigue, loneliness and exhaustion, like never before. It is so prevalent and so scary.

Culturally we are pretending that everything is back to normal but the lasting effects of the past couple of years are like a heavy weight, and expectations have not changed to accommodate that. 

What can we do?

Stay involved, check in with kids regularly. Know what they are doing and how they are spending their time. Help them find positive communities. Teach them good self care and model it yourself. Here’s an article that might help us remember what it can feel like to be an adolescent: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/when-kids-call-the-shots/201801/7-things-teenagers-desperately-need-adults-understand

This is not meant to feel like a lecture or finger pointing. I know you know these things. And I know these aren’t the fix. Really I just don’t know what else to do.

Maybe I just want to tell you that I know it’s hard.

Maybe I want to name it out loud because it feels like a huge problem that is kind of growing in secret and I’m wondering where the big urgent public conversation on this is.

Please know that I love you and every single one of our children and youth. So much. And that this place is filled with people who love you too. I want church to be a safe, nurturing place of loving community for all of our children and youth (and adults too.) We are offering play, check in space, and connection in every program, every week. If your kids are having a hard time getting here, or are not finding what they need here, reach out and let’s talk about new ideas of what would help.

I’d love their input and yours about what more you all need right now, and what that could look like.

🤟🏼♥️

Events Coming Right Up:

• Thursday, February 3rd: OWL 10th/11th grade Parent Orientation 6:30-7:30pm on Zoom. Meeting ID 845 1200 0385. For more info about this sexuality education class for Sophomores and Juniors, click HERE.
• Friday, February 11th: Sparks and Flames Game Night! 7:00-9:00p. Email JenD for more info and to RSVP
• Saturday, February 12th: South Church Outing at Great Bay National Wildlife Refuge! 10:00-11:30am. For families and individuals, all are welcome for walking, adventuring, and play! Meet near the parking area at 4 Arboretum Dr, Newington. Dress warmly and wear your boots! Please note, dogs are not allowed at GBNWR. For more info, contact JenDD

Finally, if you haven’t yet, PLEASE REGISTER YOUR CHILDREN, whether you plan to attend regularly or not! It is tremendously helpful for us to keep track of who our young people are and what we need to know about them.CLICK HERE for RE registration!

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What you need to know this month… 

Click Linked Items for additional Details:

Click here for 2021-2022 RE Program Information

• Thursday, February 3rd:
  • OWL 10th/11th grade Parent Orientation 6:30-7:30pm on Zoom.
• Saturday, February 5th:
  • Senior Youth late night, 7-11pm at church–Worship rehearsal and social time!
• Sunday, February 6th:
  • Multigenerational Worship at 10:00a, offered by Senior Youth!
  • Young Church and 6th/7th Grade service learning do not meet today–stay in sanctuary for Sr Youth worship!
  • Service will stream live on YouTube
  • Coming of Age meets 9:45-11:00, Piscataqua Room
  • OWL 5 final class will meet at a new time: 10:00-11:30, Court St classroom. Parents please join at 11:00!
  • OWL 7 meets 4:00-5:30, social hall
• Friday, February 11th:
  • Sparks and Flames Social Event! 7:00-9:00p. RSVP: jendeldeo@southchurch-uu.org
• Sunday, February 13th:
  • Lovefest! Worship at 10:00a, Sermon offered by Kirsten
  • Service will stream live on YouTube
  • Young Church meets downstairs following TFAA
  • Coming of Age meets 9:45-11:00, Piscataqua Room
  • 6th/7th grade Service Learning meets 10:00-11:00, Carson Room
  • OWL 7 meets 4:00-5:30, social hall
  • Senior Youth meets 4:00-5:30p Upstairs at Court St building
• Sunday, February 20th:
  • Worship at 10:00a, Sermon offered by Reverend Susan
  • Service will stream live on YouTube
  • Young Church meets downstairs following TFAA
  • Coming of Age meets 9:45-11:00, Piscataqua Room
  • 6th/7th grade Service Learning meets 10:00-11:00, Carson Room
  • OWL 7 meets 4:00-5:30, social hall
• Sunday, February 27th:
  • Worship at 10:00a, Sermon offered by Reverend Susan
  • Service will stream live on YouTube
  • Young Church meets downstairs following TFAA
  • Coming of Age meets 9:45-11:00, Piscataqua Room
  • 6th/7th grade Service Learning meets 10:00-11:00, Carson Room
  • OWL 7 meets 4:00-5:30, social hall
  • Senior Youth meets 4:00-5:30p upstairs at Court St building

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February’s Theme is “Widening the Circle“

Our UU faith in practice and action:

• Check out Side With Love’s “30 Days of Love 2022” to “collectively nurture our spirits, deepen our understanding, and take action on our values for collective liberation.” Here are some family-friendly highlights fro their website:
  • Have a family conversation about who needs more help in your town. How would your town be different if these communities were given help? More houses? Doctors? Parks? Schools? Imagine what your town would look like if money was spent on the communities who needed it most. Draw a picture of how it would be different than it is today.
  • Read along: “Granddaddy’s Turn: A Journey to the Ballot Box,” by Michael S. Bandy and Eric Stein read by Jennifer Beals (story starts around 5:00)
• Watch this Kid President Video. It’s been around a few times but never gets tired 🙂 Ask your kids about how they would make the world awesome if they were president.

• UU 5th Principle: “The Right of Conscience and the Use of the Democratic Process Within Our Congregations and in Society at Large.” Or, in kid friendly language, “We believe that all persons should have a vote about the things that concern them.” We just had our annual congregational meeting on January 30th, which is a great example of the democratic process at work in our church. Here are some ideas for fostering that work at home:
  • Check out General Assembly 2022. There are opportunities to experience GA online, or people can go to the assembly, which will be held in Portland, OR in June. There’s worship, workshops, and the business items of the UUA are voted on. Check out the plans as they develop HERE.
  • Listen to this beautiful chalice lighting by Adrian Ballou.
  • Share and talk about this Langston Hughes poem over a meal.
  • Vote for the Shared Plate organizations before Feb 28th! Info and link HERE.

Happy New Year ♥️

Our church theme this month is “Living With Intention.” This is something that can feel tiring, especially at a time when we are worn out already. But it doesn’t have to be. A practice of living with intention can actually restore us and give us new energy, as long as we pay attention to what is no longer relevant to our lives and what we want to add in. On Sunday January 2nd, folks at worship participated in an annual South Church tradition where we each wrote something that we are ready to let go of on a small piece of flash paper, and something that we want to manifest or carry into the new year on a sturdy, decorative piece of paper. Then we held the flash paper to a flame and watched it vanish in about a second. And we took the sturdy paper with the new intention with us out into the world as a reminder.

It can be as simple or as challenging as we need it to be at any time. We can create an intention to dive into a social justice topic at one point, or it can be enough to commit to getting dressed twice a week as an intention for self care.

If you have an intention to connect with other humans in meaningful ways, then keep an eye on our emails, newsletters, social media (Facebook and Instagram,) and worship announcements. There is still a lot happening!

Please note that the South Church policies related to covid continue to shift with the situation in the community and beyond. If you have questions or concerns about how the policy affects your family’s ability to come to church, please please reach out. We know not all kids are vaccinated, and we can have some flexibility–just talk to us. To stay current on how to be at church while we try to gather safely and responsibly (which is so tricky) please continue to refer to the Covid Policy page on the church website, which we will continue to update:

New and Noteworthy:

• Saturday, January 8th: Families Tuugether! 5:00-7:30pm. FREE NIGHT OUT FOR PARENTS! We are again offering this time for parents/caregivers to connect briefly with each other, then leave the kids with us for a night of fun! While we have the kids, you can take time to get dinner, stroll, or do whatever you want before coming back to pick them up. The plan is to continue offering this event monthly when possible. RSVP: jendeldeo@southchurch-uu.org
• Sunday, January 9th: Senior Youth Parents and Youth! 4:00-6:00pm. For all high school youth and their families. We will continue our year long learning journey, read more here. Upstairs at Court St building.
• Friday, January 14th: Sparks and Flames! 7:00-9:00pm. SOCIAL GROUP FOR KIDS IN GRADES 5 through 8! We will play games and do an activity at church. RSVP: jendeldeo@southchurch-uu.org.
• Sunday, January 30th: Annual meeting! 11:30am via zoom. Open to all, this is the democratic process of our congregation at work! Among other benefits, holding the meeting on zoom helps families join from the comfort of home, without a need for childcare.

Finally, if you haven’t yet, PLEASE REGISTER YOUR CHILDREN, whether you plan to attend regularly or not! It is tremendously helpful for us to keep track of who our young people are and what we need to know about them.CLICK HERE for RE registration!

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What you need to know this month… 

Click Linked Items for additional Details:

Click here for 2021-2022 RE Program Information

• Sunday, January 2nd:
  • Multigenerational Worship at 10:00a, Sermon offered by Reverend Susan
  • Service will stream live on YouTube
  • No Young Church today–kids stay in sanctuary today
  • Coming of Age meets 9:45-11:00am with mentors
  • OWL 5 meets 9:30-11:00, Court St classroom
  • OWL 7 meets 4:00-5:30, social hall
  • No Senior Youth today
• Saturday, January 8th:
  • Families Tuugether! 5:30-8:00. RSVP: jendeldeo@southchurch-uu.org
• Sunday, January 9th:
  • Worship at 10:00a, Sermon offered by Rev. Susan
  • Service will stream live on YouTube
  • Young Church meets downstairs following TFAA
  • Coming of Age meets 9:45-11:00, Piscataqua Room
  • 6th/7th grade Service Learning meets 10:00-11:00, Carson Room
  • OWL 5 meets 9:30-11:00, Court St classroom
  • OWL 7 meets 4:00-5:30, social hall
  • Senior Youth meets 4:00-6:00p with parents for Service Learning discussion! Upstairs at Court St building
• Friday, January 14th:
  • Sparks and Flames Social Event! 7:00-9:00p. RSVP: jendeldeo@southchurch-uu.org
• Sunday, January 16th:
  • Worship at 10:00a, Sermon offered by Tristan Husby, Exec Dir, UU Action Network NH
  • Service will stream live on YouTube
  • Young Church meets downstairs following TFAA
  • Coming of Age meets 9:45-11:00, Piscataqua Room
  • 6th/7th grade Service Learning meets 10:00-11:00, Carson Room
  • OWL 5 and OWL 7 will not meet today
  • Senior Youth meets 4:00-5:30p Upstairs at Court St building
• Sunday, January 23rd:
  • Worship at 10:00a, Sermon offered by Valerie Fagin
  • Service will stream live on YouTube
  • Young Church meets downstairs following TFAA
  • Coming of Age meets 9:45-11:00, Piscataqua Room
  • 6th/7th grade Service Learning meets 10:00-11:00, Carson Room
  • OWL 5 meets 9:30-11:00, Court St classroom
  • OWL 7 meets 4:00-5:30, social hall
  • Senior Youth meets 4:00-6:00p with parents for Service Learning discussion! Upstairs at Court St building
• Sunday, January 30th:
  • Worship at 10:00a, Sermon offered by Rev. Susan
  • Service will stream live on YouTube
  • Annual Meeting by zoom at 11:30am. Meeting link HERE
  • Young Church meets downstairs following TFAA
  • Coming of Age meets 9:45-11:00, Piscataqua Room
  • 6th/7th grade Service Learning meets 10:00-11:00, Carson Room
  • OWL 5 meets 9:30-11:00, Court St classroom
  • OWL 7 meets 4:00-5:30, social hall
  • Senior Youth meets 4:00-5:30p upstairs at Court St building

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Families at Home: January’s Theme is “Living With Intention“

Our UU faith in practice and action:

• UU 4th Principle: “A free and responsible search for truth and meaning.” Or, in kid friendly language, “We believe that each person must be free to search for what is true and right in life.” While as UUs we don’t have a prescribed doctrine, this is different from saying we just believe whatever we want. Especially in that first wording, “responsible” plays a part. Our work is to search for what is true and right and meaningful in our lives. We do that both together and individually. Here are some ideas for fostering that work at home:
  • Science Search: Check out Kitchen Pantry Scientist for really fun science experiments/projects to do at home. You can do one of the activities and then learn the science behind how it works. https://kitchenpantryscientist.com
  • Family Art: The 4th Principle connects to our monthly theme of Living With Intention because we can focus our intentions on the things that have meaning in our lives. Create a family art project where you make a collage of what is important to your family. Use magazines, family photos, draw, or use any other art supplies to make a piece of art that reflects what you value. Here’s a great tutorial from a family therapy approach: https://creativityintherapy.com/2016/11/family-values-collage/
• Taking our monthly theme home: “Living With Intention”
  • Intentions How-To: Here’s a helpful article about why and how to help kids set intentions, including a sweet bookmark coloring add-on: https://kirstenskaboodle.com/the-how-what-and-why-of-setting-intentions-for-kids/
  • Practice & Accountability: Try having each member of your family set a weekly intention, and maybe add 2 action items to go with their intention. Post on the fridge as a reminder, and check in together on how it went at the end of the week. Be gentle around unmet goals!

Chalice Lighting for mealtimes this month:

“We are all gardeners, planting seeds of intention and watering them with attention in every moment of every day.”

By writer Cristen Rodgers

Bright greetings to you, Friends! 

Our church theme this month is “Opening to Joy.”

Yes, let’s. Let’s open to joy and uncover the light in these dark days.

There are plenty of obstacles, but we as humans do have a super power to find and share joy, even in the toughest and darkest moments. Connecting in meaningful ways generates a light and joy that can sustain us.

Our 6th and 7th graders are holding a food and supplies drive to benefit Gather! Please bring donations to church between now and Sunday, 12/12. There will be collection bins in the narthex. No glass containers, please. To see Gather’s wish list items, visit their website: https://www.gathernh.org/donate-food

Senior Youth families: Commitments and deposits for our June trip will be due soon! See the Senior Youth page for more info! (Click HERE)

There are some important logistics changes to know about. In case you missed the email sent out last week, here are some things to pay attention to:

• Beginning Dec 26th, we will likely move to one worship time. This means you won’t miss your friends that do to a different worship time! RE classes will remain in the same structure, just happening during that one time. NO time change for OWL 5, OWL 7, or Senior Youth.
• We will be requiring proof of vaccination for all eligible people attending worship, beginning on Christmas Eve. Parents, we know that this is sudden for children who only just became eligible. We want to hear from you. If your child has not yet started the vaccine process, you don’t need to stop coming but please reach out to Jen DD or Kirsten. Masks will still be required for everyone in our buildings.

If you did not receive that email and would like to know all of the many details it contains, then reach out to any staff member.

These decisions have been made by our Board of Trustees, with the interests and safety of our church community as their priority. We understand the really difficult nature of setting these kinds of policies, as well as the wide range of emotions, opinions, and concerns connected to these topics. Board President Janis Wolak, Reverend Susan Suchocki Brown, and Director of Lifespan Ministries Kirsten Hunter are available to address your questions or concerns.

Finally, if you haven’t yet, PLEASE REGISTER YOUR CHILDREN, whether you plan to attend regularly or not! It is tremendously helpful for us to keep track of who our young people are and what we need to know about them.CLICK HERE for RE registration!

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What you need to know this month… 

Click Linked Items for additional Details:

Click here for 2021-2022 RE Program Information

• Friday, December 3rd:
  • Families Tuugether! 5:30-8:00. RSVP: jendeldeo@southchurch-uu.org
• Sunday, December 5th:
  • Worship at 9:00a and 11:00a, Sermon offered by Reverend Susan
  • 9:00a service will stream live on YouTube
  • Young Church meets downstairs following TFAA
  • Coming of Age meets 1:00-4:00 for service project with mentors! Piscataqua Room
  • 6th/7th grade Service Learning meets 11:00-12:00, Carson Room
  • OWL 5 meets 9:30-11:00, Court St classroom
  • OWL 7 meets 4:00-5:30, social hall
  • OWL 7 Parent Discussion Group, 4:00-5:30 in sanctuary
  • Senior Youth meet 4:00-5:30p upstairs at Court St building
• Friday, December 10th:
  • Sparks and Flames Social Event! 7:00-9:00p. RSVP for location: jendeldeo@southchurch-uu.org
• Sunday, December 12th:
  • Worship at 9:00a and 11:00a, Sermon offered by Rev. Susan
  • 9:00a service will stream live on YouTube
  • Young Church meets downstairs following TFAA
  • Coming of Age meets 10:45-12:00, Piscataqua Room
  • 6th/7th grade Service Learning meets 11:00-12:00, Carson Room
  • OWL 5 meets 9:30-11:00, Court St classroom
  • OWL 7 meets 4:00-5:30, social hall
  • Senior Youth meet 4:00-6:30p upstairs at Court St building
• Sunday, December 19th:
  • Worship at 9:00a and 11:00a, PAGEANT DAY!! All-ages worship.
  • 9:00a service will stream live on YouTube
  • Coming of Age, 6th/7th Service Learning, Sr Youth and OWL 5: These do not meet today–come to the pageant!
  • OWL 7 meets 4:00-5:30, social hall
• Sunday, December 26th:
  • Worship at 10:00a only, offered by Worship Associates
  • Service will stream live on YouTube
  • No RE programming today
• Sunday, January 2nd:
  • All-Ages Worship at 10:00a, sermon offered by Kirsten Hunter
  • OWL 5 meets 9:30-11:00, Court St classroom
  • Coming of Age meets 10:45-12:00, Piscataqua Room, with mentors
  • OWL 7 meets 4:00-5:30, social hall
  • Senior Youth–help with worship!

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Families at Home: December’s Theme is “Opening to Joy“

Our UU faith in practice and action:

• UU 3rd Principle: “Acceptance of one another and encouragement to spiritual growth in our congregations.” Or, in kid friendly language, “We believe that we should accept one another and keep on learning together.” In Unitarian Universalism, spiritual growth doesn’t necessarily mean growing closer to god. Maybe it’s more like searching for truth and meaning within own selves, and supporting each other in doing that. This doesn’t happen only in church. While church can be the community part of our spiritual growth, and can inspire us to grow, we also should find our own spiritual practices outside of church. This includes helping our children develop sources of spiritual connection and rituals in daily life. Here are a few things kids can try, to find spiritual practices that they can connect to:
  • Go for a walk in Nature, and let natural curiosity inspire a sense of wonder and awe
  • Try meditation. There are some great guided meditations for kids on YouTube and various music streaming platforms. Start with something short as they build their endurance for meditating. Here’s a nice one as an example.
  • Gratitude practice. Find a time of day where you can start a daily gratitude practice. There are many ways to do this; you could take turns sharing your gratitude at the dinner table; keep a gratitude journal next to bed, where you write one large, medium and small thing you are grateful for when you wake up; set a 1-minute timer at bedtime and name as many things you are thankful for as you can before time is up. Here’s a great article related to this, including more ideas.
  • Explore spirituality through music together. You can listen to music (try tracks from Beautiful Chorus, or from our Director of Music Ministry, Jonny Peiffer, as Sojoy, for example) or make music. If you don’t play instruments you can drum a beat that matches what’s in your heart or what you want to invite in. Or try humming as a spiritual practice (read more HERE.)
• Taking our monthly theme home: “Opening to Joy”
  • Do you find joy in the act of giving, sharing, spending time with family or friends? Where else do you find joy? Make a list together.
    • HERE‘s a book about someone sharing the joy they find in words, read aloud by Barack and Michelle Obama. Consider writing a secret poem to someone to share joy!
  • Have a joke telling session at home! Kids are great at making up their own. Or, HERE are some to get you started.

between the one who just received a gift 

and the one that has been looking for it a long time. 

It’s a beautiful and elegant contagion, 

over which we have more control than we think. 

If only we share it. 

If only we notice that joy is not ours to keep, 

but ours to pass on. 

So let’s light up the world, friends! 

Joy blesses us with its exuberance, 

so we can make that blessing grow! 

Here we are, in November. Wow!

Natural cycles tell us that this is a time of year when we return from our outward, productive, adventurous work and move toward turning inward, reflecting, sharing the stories of where we’ve been. Giving thanks, storytelling, and honoring the wisdom of our ancestors all fall into this realm. Sometimes when we feel tension, friction, or overwhelm it can help to return to these natural cycles to remind us how of the flow that keeps us moving in gentler ways. A little centering can go a long way.

The church theme for November is “Holding History.”

There’s a painfully lovely excerpt in this month’s Soul Matters resources that ties it all together: “Let’s not just ‘remember’ this month. Let’s not just talk of telling truthful tales. Let’s prepare to grieve, to confess, to feel, to forgive. The world needs broken-open hearts, not just good historians. That is, indeed, the only way the past gets in.” So much to process, but this is a good place and time to do that.

At this point, there are lots of Religious Education programs underway: Senior Youth for our high school kids, 8th grade Coming of Age, 6th/7th grade Service Learning, OWL sexuality education for 5th grade and 7th grade, and Young Church for 5th grade and younger. If you are looking for a place for your kids to jump in, or if for any reason these programs don’t fit your kids’ needs, then PLEASE reach out so we can find fulfilling ways for every member of your family to be in community here. That can look like a whole lot of different things, and we are committed to creating positive spaces for everyone.

Covid Policy Update: There is a small new change. During worship in the sanctuary, the person who is speaking at the front of the church may choose to take their mask off. Everyone else is to keep masks on in the buildings at all times. As the covid situation changes in the community, there will continue to be shifts in our policy. We will communicate those changes so you are making informed decisions around your family’s health and safety. In Religious Ed classes, all volunteers are required to be vaccinated and everyone wears masks. When snack is offered in an RE class, it will happen outdoors.

We still need lots of kinds volunteers! This applies to many areas of church life, in addition to Religious Ed groups. We have a rich program, and it takes a lot of people to make it wonderful. We would LOVE to help you find a role that will fill your spiritual cup to overflowing. Please reach out to any South Church staff member to see how you can help–we can fit a role to match your availability and interests.

Finally, if you haven’t yet, PLEASE REGISTER YOUR CHILDREN, whether you plan to attend regularly or not! It is tremendously helpful for us to keep track of who our young people are and what we need to know about them.CLICK HERE for RE registration!

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What you need to know this month… 

Click Linked Items for additional Details:

Click here for 2021-2022 RE Program Information

• Sunday, November 7th:
  • Worship at 9:00a and 11:00a, Sermon offered by Reverend Susan
  • 9:00a service will stream live on YouTube
  • Young Church meets downstairs following TFAA
  • Coming of Age meets 10:45-12:00, Piscataqua Room
  • 6th/7th grade Service Learning meets 11:00-12:00, Carson Room
  • OWL 5 meets 9:30-11:00, Court St classroom
  • OWL 7 meets 4:00-5:30, social hall
  • Senior Youth AND PARENTS meet 4:00-6:00p upstairs at Court St building
• Friday, November 12th:
  • Sparks and Flames Social Event! Campfire Fun, 7:00-9:00p. RSVP for location: jendeldeo@shouthchurch-uu.org
• Sunday, November 14th:
  • Worship at 9:00a and 11:00a, Sermon offered by Rev. Ariel Aaronson Eves
  • 9:00a service will stream live on YouTube
  • Young Church meets downstairs following TFAA
  • Coming of Age meets 10:45-4:00 for Fall Retreat Day 2
  • 6th/7th grade Service Learning meets 11:00-12:00, Carson Room
  • OWL 5 meets 9:30-11:00, Court St classroom
  • OWL 7 meets for extended class 1:30-5:30, social hall
  • Senior Youth meets 4:00-5:30p upstairs at Court St building
• Saturday, November 20th:
  • Senior Youth trip to HOME
• Sunday, November 21st:
  • Worship at 9:00a and 11:00a, Sermon offered by Reverend Susan
  • 9:00a service will stream live on YouTube
  • Young Church meets downstairs following TFAA
  • Coming of Age meets 10:45-12:00, Piscataqua Room
  • 6th/7th grade Service Learning meets 11:00-12:00, Carson Room
  • OWL 5 meets 9:30-11:00, Court St classroom
  • OWL 7 meets 4:00-5:30, social hall
  • Senior Youth Wreath Sale during Social Hour!
• Sunday, November 28th:
  • Worship at 9:00a and 11:00a, Sermon offered by Cathy Wolff
  • 9:00a service will stream live on YouTube
  • All-Ages RE program meets downstairs following TFAA!
  • No meeting for OWL, Coming of Age, or 6th/7th Service Learning today–join the All Ages RE program today!
  • No meeting for Senior Youth today

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Families at Home: November’s Theme is “Holding History“

Our UU faith in practice and action:

• UU 2nd Principle: On Nov 21st, our Young Church participants will learn about the 2nd UU Principle: “Justice, equity and compassion in human relations.” In kid-friendly language, “We believe that all people should be treated fairly and kindly.” Explore this idea together at home, and bonus points for adding the “Holding History” theme by talking or reading a book about Thanksgiving from an Indigenous People’s perspective. CLICK HERE for a link to a list of books.
• Remembering Those Who Have Died: Many people have lost loved ones in a time when we haven’t been able to hold our regular rituals around death and saying goodbye. There are ways we can hold our ancestors and other people who have died actively in our lives. Some UUs can be uncomfortable about knowing how prayer fits in their lives. Here is a great story that gives us a lot to think about on these topics: “Grandad’s Prayers of the Earth”
• Gratitude Tree: A regular Gratitude practice is shown to benefit both our physical and emotional hearts, and to improve our general wellbeing. Try making a family gratitude tree that everyone can add to daily. HERE is a link to several ideas for creating a gratitude tree.
  • Try adding prompts some days, such as “What’s a memory you are grateful for?” or “Who is a person who has helped you that you are grateful for?”

Chalice Lighting for mealtimes this month:

For What Shall We Give Thanks?

Rev. Laura Horton-Ludwig 

Full piece at https://www.uua.org/worship/words/opening/what-shall-we-give-thanks 

“The wheel of the year has turned again. 

Once more the Thanksgiving season has arrived. 

How shall we sing our song of gratitude now? 

For what shall we give thanks?…” 

Happy Autumn!

Well, we’re back, and so far so good.

The theme for October is “Cultivating Relationship.” Ooh, this is good. What a gift this month, to be intentional about this topic. As we navigate return to in person gatherings, we can pay attention to how we want to come together, what we want to grow (or cultivate), and explore what it means to build healthy connections.

At this point, we’ve had a few Sundays of in person worship. One Sunday, kids worked on props for the following week’s TFAA (see pic above,) and one Sunday we checked in and had some fun play time. We will continue to offer a gentle time of gathering for all kids during worship, following the Time For All Ages. Outdoors when weather allows, indoors when it doesn’t. Please have your children dress for outdoor time!

We are hoping to begin our traditional age-based Religious Education classes similar to how we’ve traditionally met, October 17th. We will have classes for Pre-K through 8th grade on Sunday mornings. Most will meet during both worship times, but some will meet during only one worship. You can find the details for your children on pages under the “Program Info” tab. OWL for 5th and 7th grades, plus Coming of Age will all begin on October 24th.

We need lots of RE volunteers! We have a rich program, and it takes a lot of people to make it wonderful. Whether it’s helping with the all-ages sessions through mid-October, or any of the various age-based classes that will begin in late October. I would LOVE to help you find a role that will fill your spiritual cup to overflowing. You can check out the volunteer page for descriptions, expectations and spiritual rooting HERE, you can sign up for a slot HERE, or you can email me and we can set a time to talk about what would feel good for you: jendeldeo@southchurch-uu.org. Please reach out to see how you can help–we can fit a role to match your availability and interests.

Finally, PLEASE REGISTER YOUR CHILDREN, whether you plan to attend regularly or not. It is tremendously helpful for us to keep track of who our young people are and what we need to know about them.CLICK HERE for RE registration!

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What you need to know this month… 

Click Linked Items for additional Details:

Click here for 2021-2022 RE Program Information

• Saturday, October 2nd:
  • Families tUUgether! 5:00-7:30p. More details HERE. Email JenDD to RSVP: jendeldeo@southchurch-uu.org
• Sunday, October 3rd:
  • Worship at 9:00a and 11:00a, Sermon offered by Kimberly Cloutier Green
  • 9:00a service will stream live on YouTube
  • Senior Youth meets 4:00-5:30p upstairs at Court St building
• Thursday, October 7th:
  • Coming of Age Orientation and Opening Ceremony for 8th graders and their families 6:30-8:00p at church
• Friday, October 8th:
  • Sparks and Flames social group for grades 5 through 8: Games at church! 7:00-8:30p RSVP: jendeldeo@southchurch-uu.org
• Sunday, October 10th:
  • Worship at 9:00a and 11:00a, Sermon offered by Denise and Paul Pouloit
  • 9:00a service will stream live on YouTube
  • Senior Youth will NOT meet this day
• Wednesday, October 13th:
  • OWL Sexuality Education for 7th grade–Orientation for parents, 6:30-8:00p at church
• Thursday, October 14th:
  • OWL Sexuality Education for 5th grade–Orientation for parents, 7:00-8:00p at church
• Sunday, October 17th:
  • Worship in person at South Church at 9:00a & 11:00a, Sermon offered by Rev Susan
  • 9:00a service will stream live on Youtube
  • Senior Youth meets 4:00-5:30p upstairs at Court St building
• Sunday, October 24th:
  • Worship in person at South Church at 9:00a & 11:00a, Sermon offered by Kirsten Hunter
  • 9:00a service will stream live on Youtube
  • 5th Grade OWL meets 9:30-11:00a upstairs at Court St building
  • 7th Grade OWL meets 4:00-5:30p in social hall
  • Coming of Age meets 10:45a-12:00p in the Piscataqua Room
  • Senior Youth meets 4:00-5:30p upstairs at Court St building
• Sunday, October 31st: Halloween
  • Worship in person at South Church at 9:00a & 11:00a, Sermon offered by Rev Susan
  • 9:00a service will stream live on Youtube
  • 5th & 7th grade OWL, Coming of Age will NOT meet today, kids can join regular RE during worship
  • Sparks and Flames 5th-8th grade pumpkin carving social 5:30-7:00p at church
  • Church-wide pumpkin carving contest! Bring your carved pumpkins, prizes awarded!
  • Senior Youth Halloween social!

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Families at Home: October’s Theme is “Cultivating Relationship“

Our UU faith in practice and action:

• Listening practice: Deep listening and communicating our needs are so important to cultivating relationship. Sometimes we might interrupt someone, or assume we know what they are saying without really hearing all of what they’re saying. And sometimes it can be hard to communicate in words what we need from others. Here are a couple of fun ways to practice listening and communicating clearly:
  • Homemade LEGO listening game. If you have LEGOs at home, you can play this simple yet fun and challenging game together: http://storiesandchildren.com/homemade-lego-listening-game/
  • Listening practices at mealtime: When you sit down for a meal together, try a new way to be intentional about listening and speaking. For example, go around the table, giving each person uninterrupted time to share the most challenging part of their day. Often, especially as parents, we try to “fix” each other’s challenges by quickly offering solutions. Sometimes it’s most helpful to just feel heard. Listeners in this exercise might try giving a quiet pause for several seconds after the speaker finishes, and/or acknowledging the speaker’s struggle when they have finished speaking with something like, “That sounds really difficult,” before asking, “Is there anything that would feel helpful?” Go around again, giving each person another uninterrupted chance to share something they accomplished, something that was fun, something they’re hoping to do tomorrow, or other prompt.
• Listening practice: Deep listening and communicating our needs are so important to cultivating relationship. Sometimes we might interrupt someone, or assume we know what they are saying without really hearing all of what they’re saying. And sometimes it can be hard to communicate in words what we need from others. Here are a couple of fun ways to practice listening and communicating clearly:Homemade LEGO listening game. If you have LEGOs at home, you can play this simple yet fun and challenging game together: http://storiesandchildren.com/homemade-lego-listening-game/
• Listening practices at mealtime: When you sit down for a meal together, try a new way to be intentional about listening and speaking. For example, go around the table, giving each person uninterrupted time to share the most challenging part of their day. Often, especially as parents, we try to “fix” each other’s challenges by quickly offering solutions. Sometimes it’s most helpful to just feel heard. Listeners in this exercise might try giving a quiet pause for several seconds after the speaker finishes, and/or acknowledging the speaker’s struggle when they have finished speaking with something like, “That sounds really difficult,” before asking, “Is there anything that would feel helpful?” Go around again, giving each person another uninterrupted chance to share something they accomplished, something that was fun, something they’re hoping to do tomorrow, or other prompt. 
• Cultivating relationship through caretaking: We all need help sometimes, and sometimes it’s wonderful even if we don’t need it. All kinds of caretaking, when it is welcome, can help deepen our relationships. 
  • Watch this video of Lea Morris telling a version of “The Parable of the Spoons,” with a special song she created at the end: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hE5m3iYRBBo
  • Caretaking also applies to our relationship with our selves. When we love and care for ourselves, we are better able to love and care for others. Try asking yourself in any moment, “What do I need right now,” which is different than “What do I feel like I want right now.” Sometimes when we’re struggling we go to behaviors that don’t really help in the long run. What would feel helpful for you right now? A walk outside, a nice snack, a chat with a friend, a nap? What can you do to make space for that self care?

Chalice Lighting for mealtimes this month:

From a Passover Haggadah, Reading 453 in Singing the Living Tradition

Hi there, dear Families!

What a moment this is. Many of you have children starting school, likely with a wide range of feelings. The status of the Delta variant and the variety of responses to it certainly complicates all plans and leaves everyone with a whole lot of unwelcome uncertainty.

We are right there with you. And we are also right here FOR you. I want to give very clear details about our plans for church and Religious Education, and I want to hear how you are and what you need and want.

South Church staff, plus the Covid Task Force and other committees, have spent many months collecting questions and thinking about every detail, facet, and consideration for how to come back together in physical spaces in the best ways that we can.

Over the past 18 months, worship has been online, and meetings for religious education, committees, and other groups have happened in a combination of zoom, in person outdoor, and in person indoor settings, based on thoughtful consideration and with guidance from the Task Force. 

We are preparing to begin gathering in person for worship again, starting Sunday September 12th. The current plan is that we will have two weekly Sunday worship services, as we sometimes have done in the past: one at 9:00am, one at 11:00am. Everyone who attends must be masked, without exception. Also, everyone must fill out a waiver and health commitment form before their first time entering the building. This is to be done once and will be kept on file. We will have copies available when you arrive, or you can save time and fill it out in advance from this link:

Worship will also be live streamed and recorded from the sanctuary during the 9:00 service only. For anyone concerned about yourself or your children being seen online, there is an area in the sanctuary that the camera does not ever pick up, and we can help you know where that is. Also, the 11:00 service will not be streamed and will NOT have the camera on at any time.

The first Sunday that we are back, September 12th, will be our traditional Water Ingathering service, which will be an all-ages worship. That means children will stay in the sanctuary with their caregivers. Don’t forget to bring water from your special places to add to our collection that is later used in special ceremonies.

Beginning the following Sunday 9/19 and for a handful of following Sundays, youth and children ages 4 and up will have the option to either stay in the sanctuary with their families, or they can join an all-ages RE time during worship. If the weather allows, we will go outside after the Time For All Ages. If it’s raining, we will go upstairs to the big room outside the balcony. These times will be focused on social-emotional needs; there will be time for getting to know each other and playing together. Masks will be required in these RE spaces, whether we meet indoors or outdoors. Please dress your children for being outdoors! If you are able to help us on one of those Sundays then click the button to sign up!

Children under 4 can stay in the sanctuary with their families. For littles that need a break from worship, the Nursery will be open, complete with freshly sterilized toys. However, for now the nursery will not be staffed. Caregivers must stay in that room with their children while they are using it. To be clear, children are always welcome in the sanctuary, and we do not expect that they will always be quiet. We want to keep church a place where we are all trying our best to be in community together.

As long as our return is able to continue as planned, age-based Religious Education classes similar to how we’ve traditionally met will begin October 17th. We will have classes for Pre-K through 8th grade on Sunday mornings. Most will meet during both worship times, but some will meet during only one worship. You can find the details for your children on pages under the “Program Info” tab.

We need lots of RE volunteers! We have a rich program, and it takes a lot of people to make it wonderful. Whether it’s helping with the all-ages sessions through mid-October, or any of the various age-based classes that will begin in late October. I would LOVE to help you find a role that will fill your spiritual cup to overflowing. You can check out the volunteer page for descriptions, expectations and spiritual rooting HERE, you can sign up for a slot HERE, or you can email me and we can set a time to talk about what would feel good for you: jendeldeo@southchurch-uu.org.

For families with children in 5th or 7th grade: We will be holding Our Whole Lives (OWL) sexuality education classes starting in late October. There is already a lot of interest for these classes. Registration preference is given to South Church families, and then remaining spots will be offered to the wider community beginning Oct 1st. PLEASE email before Oct 1 if you would like to sign your child up for OWL: jendeldeo@southchurch-uu.org.

We want our church space to be as safe as possible for ALL of our people. And we have set it up that way as much as we can. However, I want to make it clear that there is still a certain amount of risk to returning, and you will need to consider this when deciding what’s right for your family. We are so much looking forward to seeing you, and we support any decision you make around whether or not your family is ready to be here in person. If you are not ready to come back in person, then reach out for ways to stay connected, resources to practice UUism at home, or anything else you need.

Here are a few things that may be helpful to know about coming to church:

• Everyone will be masked inside the building, at all times, and during all Religious Education gatherings.
• After worship, there will be a social hour with refreshments outside on the portico. Masks will be optional during that time outside. It will be up to parents/caregivers to make that choice individually for their children.
• Our building does NOT have air filtration.
• Everyone who comes to church will have to complete a liability waiver and health commitment form by the first day they return to church and for any other church groups they meet with.

Sending you SO MUCH LOVE as you navigate all the things right now. Reach out any time with questions or concerns: jendeldeo@southchurch-uu.org

Finally, PLEASE REGISTER YOUR CHILDREN, whether you plan to attend regularly or not. It is tremendously helpful for us to keep track of who our young people are and what we need to know about them.

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What you need to know this month… 

Click Linked Items for additional Details:

Click here for 2021-2022 RE Program Information

• Sunday, September 5th:
  • Worship at 10:00am on YouTube, Sermon offered by Bob Vaccaro
• Sunday, September 12th:
  • Water Ingathering! Return to worship in person at South Church at 9:00a & 11:00a. All Ages worship
  • 9:00a Worship will stream on Youtube
• Saturday, September 18th:
  • Senior Youth Welcome/Welcome Back Orientation 7:00p-midnight. Parents, please join us from 7:00p-8:00p!
• Sunday, September 19th:
  • Worship in person at South Church at 9:00a & 11:00a, Sermon offered by Rebecca Hennessy
  • All kids & youth can join Religious Education during both services, following the Time For All Ages
  • 9:00a Worship will stream on Youtube
  • Training for Spirit Play volunteers, 12:30p-3:00p at Church
• Sunday, September 26th:
  • Worship in person at South Church at 9:00a & 11:00a, Sermon offered by Reverend Susan
  • All kids & youth can join Religious Education during both services, following the Time For All Ages
  • 9:00a Worship will stream on Youtube
  • RE Volunteer Training, 12:30p-2:00p at Church
• Saturday, October 2nd:
  • Families tUUgether! 5:00-7:30p. RSVP required. More details HERE. Email JenDD to register: jendeldeo@southchurch-uu.org
• Sunday, October 3rd:
  • Worship in person at South Church at 9:00a & 11:00a, Sermon offered by Kimberly Cloutier Green
  • All kids & youth can join Religious Education during both services, following the Time For All Ages
  • 9:00a Worship will stream on Youtube
• Thursday, October 7th:
  • Coming of Age family orientation and opening ceremony 6:30p-8:00p
• Friday, October 8th:
  • Sparks and Flames social group for grades 5 through 8: Games at church! 7:00-8:30p RSVP: jendeldeo@southchurch-uu.org

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Families at Home: September’s Theme is “Embracing Possibility“

Our UU faith in practice and action:

• Water Ingathering: On September 12th we will have our annual Water Ingathering tradition! This is when everyone is invited to bring water from various places, whether from halfway around the world, the local lake your family has been visiting for generations, or even your kitchen sink. The water symbolizes our favorite places, our favorite things to do, or how we live our daily lives. These are the things that sustain us and they are all around us. When we all bring our little bottles of water and combine them into our special bowl, we are adding symbols of ourselves and we can imagine that we all help sustain each other’s lives too. The combined water is used throughout the church year when we have baby dedications, when senior youth are bridging, and other special ceremonies and rituals.
  • As a family, decide where you will gather your water. When you fill your container (you don’t need much; even an ounce is good) talk together about what gifts each of you offer our community just by being your selves. And how does our church and the people in it help to sustain or buoy you?
• Covenanting: Every year when we start new programs, we begin by creating covenants in each group. Covenanting is an important UU tradition. A covenant helps us decide as a whole group how we want to be together. When friction arises, we can revisit the covenant we made together to see where we are not meeting the agreements and then come back into a peaceful place. If there is not an element in the covenant that addresses the problem then we can work together to add something that will help. Your family can create a covenant for the same reasons!
  • Here’s a helpful example from a UU family who created a covenant together: https://www.uua.org/leadership/library/parenting-pandemic/family-covenant
  • Also from the UUA website: “Try… creating a family covenant. Take some time to explore ways you want to behave with one another. Keep in mind that a covenant does not provide rules (“no hitting”) so much as ways of engagement (“treat each other with respect”). Light a chalice to lift the moment from the ordinary to a place of importance. Brainstorm ideas for your family covenant, and then combine the ideas to write a three- or four-line covenant. Create colorful posters to display the covenant around your home.”

Chalice Lighting for mealtimes this month:

“Welcome Home”

By Rachel Rott

Welcome home…
There is, in this place, the possibility of healing, of repair, of making things right: within ourselves, between us, and with the wider world.

Hello Friends, and Hello Summer!

What does this moment hold for you? Some of us have been coasting through the end of the school year for the last several months. Here we are, and now what? What will your summer look like? Hopefully plenty of play and adventuring. And hopefully it feels like a nice long restorative time.

In the Religious Education world at South Church, we’ve been busy winding down programs; camping trips for our high school youth and 8th grade Coming of Age groups, celebrating final classes of 5th and 7th grade OWL, an emotional Bridging process toward the June 6th worship, and a powerful service on June 13th by our Coming of Age youth.

Our theme for June is PLAY! It’s time to let the kids take the lead on spiritual practice. There is incredible value in using play to process difficult things. Kids know this instinctually, and all we need to do is follow along. We’ve all had so many challenges, and it’s ok to let some of that move through us now in this joyful way. Games, pretending, tumbling, joking…it’s all great therapy!

June is also Pride month! Learning, celebrating, supporting LGBTQ+ organizations…This is built into the fabric of our faith. There are Pride events (including an RE gathering!), activities, and resources below for you to engage in with kids and youth.

Moving forward, we have a gentle yet connective summer schedule to offer. We have four, all-ages events on Saturday mornings. Since they aren’t weekly, the hope is that everyone can make it to all of them (or at least most of them 🙂.) Parents will be free to drop kids off, or you are welcome to stay for the fun. The plan is to hold these gatherings outdoors, but if we get rain we will move into the social hall. Here’s a description of each gathering:

• June 26th 9:30-11:00: PRIDE celebration! We’ll make decorations for the church fence and a fun item to take home for celebrating throughout the day and beyond. Meet in front of church.
• July 17th 9:30-11:00: Kids tell a story for worship! Acting, costume, props…microtheater!
• August 7th 10:00-11:30: Community Picnic! Bring a snack, picnic blanket and outdoor games. This one is for adults too! We’ll meet at Great Island Common, 301 Wentworth Rd, New Castle, NH 03854
• August 28th 10:00-11:30: Readying Together! We’ll center around returning to school, in whatever form that looks like for each of us, with blessings, games, and creating a special item to take away.

In case you haven’t heard, we are planning to resume in person church on Sundays beginning September 12th. We are busy planning and designing what Religious Education will look like in the transition and once we are again settled into that space.

It will be so good to see you this summer! Sending you all so much Love ♥️

One more thing… Please Register your kids for the program year! It keeps our records accurate. click here for the online form!

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What you need to know this month… 

Click Linked Items for additional Details:

There are still many ways to connect with other South church families! Click here for RE Program Information

• Wednesday, June 2:
  • Morning Poems for adults, 7:30-8:00a on zoom
• Sunday, June 6:
  • All-Ages Chapel 9:00-9:30a on Zoom
  • Worship on Youtube 10a-11a,Bridging Sunday!
  • Coming of Age 8th grade meet in person at SC Sanctuary 3:00-4:00p, recording day
  • 7th Grade Sexuality Class meets 11:30a-1:30p at church
• Wednesday, June 9:
  • Morning Poems for adults, 7:30-8:00a on zoom
• Sunday, June 13:
  • All-Ages Chapel 9:00-9:30a on Zoom
  • Worship on Youtube 10a-11a, offered by our 8th Grade Coming of Age Youth!
  • 7th Grade Sexuality Class meets for final class, 12:00a-1:30p at church. Parents join us at 1:00 for the last 30 minutes!
• Wednesday June 16:
  • Morning Poems for adults, 7:30-8:00a on zoom
• Sunday, June 20:
  • All-Ages Chapel 9:00-9:30a on Zoom
  • Worship on Youtube 10a-11a, sermon by Reverend Susan
• Wednesday, June 23:
  • Morning Poems for adults, 7:30-8:00a on zoom
• Saturday, June 26:
  • All Ages RE Saturday! PRIDE celebration 9:30-11:00! Meet outside at church. Parents may drop kids off or stay for the fun. Kids should arrive wearing sunscreen and wearing clothes that may get wet. Bring a water bottle.
• Sunday, June 27:
  • All-Ages Chapel 9:00-9:30a on Zoom
  • Worship on Youtube 10a-11a, sermon by Deanna Strand

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Families at Home: June’s Theme is “Play“

Our UU faith in practice:

• Let’s all make some extra intentional time to just play with our kids this month, in any way they want to play. Pretend play for young children is especially helpful in processing emotions, and games of all kinds can help us reduce stress. Here’s a great list of family fun games that require few to no props: https://bestlifeonline.com/family-games-house/
• With this being Pride month, it’s a natural opportunity to engage in family explorations around what Pride is about and how to engage, learn, support, celebrate or take action to protect rights for the LGBTQ community.

Our UU faith in action:

• 6/19 is Juneteenth! The observance of Juneteenth as the African American Emancipation Day began in 1865.
  • Here’s a list of kids’ books for learning about Juneteenth: https://www.nypl.org/blog/2019/06/18/juneteenth-kids-books
  • Here’s a fun educational video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T2HAVuld0_0
  • Another one, from PBS kids: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gWBlikh8A2E
• Our shared plate recipient for June is the South Church Immigrant Support Fund. This is a network within our own congregation that has been set up to support immigrants who have been released from detention locally. To get updates, including opportunities to volunteer, contact Jim Verscheuren: jd.verschueren@gmail.com.

Chalice Lighting for mealtimes this month:

“Exploring Who We Are”

By Melanie Davis

Under the right circumstances, playing with fire is a delight—imagine being gathered round a firepit as the crackling flames invite us to sing, dance, and roast a marshmallow or two.

Our chalice also invites us to play, although with ideas rather than with marshmallows. The flame encourages us to explore who we are, who our neighbors are, and where we are on our spiritual journeys.

Today, we light this chalice in the spirit of play. Let us trust the light to guide us in this hour and in the days to come, finding joy along the way.

Hi There Dear Friends,

Think of the sound of our church bell ringing. Can you remember how it sounds? Imagine that it’s calling us in, telling us It’s time to build back into deep community. Not in the physical sanctuary yet, but in fortifying our social and emotional sanctuary. The place where we feel known and held.

Everything has been changed, chopped up, paused, scattered, and restricted for so long that it may be hard to remember what exactly we are about. Most, if not all, of us have been in survival mode for a very long time now, which is far more tiring and difficult than thriving mode. What does it take to return to thriving? It can’t be by simply doing the things we used to do. But it does require us to decide to invest in our “us-ness” again, to rebuild our bonds. This applies to so many of our different kinds of community. And it certainly does apply to the “We” or “Us” of our church community.

While obligations can easily feel like too much, and lots of people’s schedules are already getting too crowded again, I invite and encourage you to try to show up at some South Church events.

There have been lots of moments that have felt surprisingly good. Maybe you’ve been there and felt it too? At each of our monthly family outings at various outdoor locations, it has felt so good to see people in person, to engage in activities together, and to just chat with old friends and new ones too. It felt good to play adventurously together at the 2 zoom cooking events–Chopped and Will It Waffle? It feels good to be with our 5th-7th graders when they play joyfully at their social evenings, the way kids are supposed to be together. We’ve had deep connection in the Parents and Caregivers As Sexuality Educators group. And it was really special to check in with people doing the “Becoming” Challenge.

If you haven’t been to any of these events, then think about a time recently when you have felt a good connection, whether at church or in another context, a kind of warm coming home connection feeling. That’s what’s happening, that’s what we’re creating and offering to solidify those bonds as we build back from all the disruption and loss. It’s hard to imagine until being in it, but it does feel right and good. It’s an important first step–gentle bonding–so we can eventually dig back into all of the other missions, adventure and good work waiting ahead.

Right now our Religious Education program looks like this: a monthly Saturday in person family outing; a monthly in person Sunday morning All-Ages RE exploration (like Story Workshop); All-Ages Chapel 9:00-9:30 every Sunday morning on Zoom; an occasional all ages evening zoom adventure (like Chopped); and of course our Senior Youth, Coming of Age, and Sexuality Education programs all meet regularly.

Some of these may sound like simple and frivolous isolated events, but they’re not. They are intentional and important work that will allow us to return to thriving mode. We will accomplish and grow SO MUCH when we are thriving. Let’s do this! Let’s show up and be part of this sweet bonding. ♥️

A few highlights for May:

• Story Workshop–All Ages! Meet near the stage at Prescott Park to participate in creating something special for worship. Sunday 5/2, 11:30-12:30
• Family Outing Day–Saturday, May 22 10:00-11:30 at Urban Forestry Center. Fancy Tea Party, wild games, and a special Bridging activity!

One more thing… Please Register your kids for the program year! It keeps our records accurate. click here for the online form!

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What you need to know this month… 

Click Linked Items for additional Details:

There are still many ways to connect with other South church families! Click here for RE Program Information

• Friday, April 30:
  • Sparks & Flames game night on Zoom 7:00-7:30–for all 5th-7th graders!
• Saturday, May1:
  • Closing circle for April “Becoming” Challenge! 9:30-10:00 on zoom
• Sunday, May 2:
  • All-Ages Chapel 9:00-9:30a on Zoom
  • Worship on Youtube 10a-11a, offered by South Church Ministerial Search Committee
  • Kids of All Ages! Story Workshop, help us create a TFAA 11:30a-12:30p. Meet at Prescott Park, near the stage. Bring a water bottle and snack, wear a mask, and use a restroom before arriving!
  • Coming of Age 8th grade meet in person at Urban Forestry Ctr 3:00-4:00p, with Mentors
  • 7th Grade Sexuality Class meets 11:30a-1:30p at church
  • 5th Grade Sexuality Class meets 4:00-5:30p at church
• Monday, May 3:
  • Senior Youth and their parents-mandatory meeting for camping trip 7pm on Zoom
• Wednesday, May 5:
  • Morning Poems for adults, 7:30-8:00a on zoom
• Friday, May 7
  • Coming of Age Wilderness Retreat info meeting for parents 7:00-7:30p on Zoom
• Sunday, May 9, Mother’s Day:
  • All-Ages Chapel 9:00-9:30a on Zoom
  • Worship on Youtube 10a-11a, sermon by Reverend Susan
  • Coming of Age 8th grade-no class today
  • 7th Grade Sexuality Class meets 11:30a-1:30p at church
  • 5th Grade Sexuality Class meets 4:00-5:30p at church
• Wednesday May 12:
  • Morning Poems for adults, 7:30-8:00a on zoom
• Friday, May 14th:
  • Senior Youth camping trip! (Friday-Sunday)
• Sunday, May 16th:
  • All-Ages Chapel 9:00-9:30a on Zoom
  • Worship on Youtube 10a-11a, sermon by Reverend Susan
  • Coming of Age 8th grade meet in person at Urban Forestry Ctr 3:00-4:00p, with Mentors
  • 7th Grade Sexuality Class meets online 11:30a-1:30p
  • 5th Grade Sexuality Class–final class! 4:00-5:30p. Parents join at 5:00 for the last 30 mins.
• Wednesday, May 19:
  • Morning Poems for adults, 7:30-8:00a on zoom
• Saturday, May 22:
  • Family Outing Day–Saturday, May 22 10:00-11:30 at Urban Forestry Center. Fancy Tea Party, wild games, and a special Bridging activity! This event is cancelled, but watch for our next Family Outing Day in the coming weeks!
• Sunday, May 23:
  • All-Ages Chapel 9:00-9:30a on Zoom
  • Worship on Youtube 10a-11a, sermon by Reverend Susan
  • Coming of Age 8th grade–no class today
  • 7th Grade Sexuality Class meets 11:30a-1:30p
• Wednesday, May 26:
  • Morning Poems for adults, 7:30-8:00a on zoom
• Friday, May 28:
  • Coming of Age Wilderness Retreat! (Friday-Sunday)
• Sunday, May 30:
  • All-Ages Chapel 9:00-9:30a on Zoom
  • Worship on Youtube 10a-11a, sermon by Tom Barry
  • 7th Grade Sexuality–no class today/holiday weekend
• Wednesday, June2 :
  • Morning Poems for adults, 7:30-8:00a on zoom
• Sunday, June 6:
  • All-Ages Chapel 9:00-9:30a on Zoom
  • Worship on Youtube 10a-11a Bridging Sunday!!
  • 7th Grade Sexuality Class meets 11:30a-1:30p in person

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*Weather permitting **Tentative, details may change

Families at Home: May’s Theme is “Story“

Our UU faith in pratice:

• Part of our UU Living Tradition comes from science. (You can refresh on what the UU Sources are HERE). Here is a book about Evolution as the story of life that you might enjoy sharing: Our Family Tree by Lisa Westberg Peters  (Author), Lauren Stringer  (Author) Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BTXmSDmq5tI
• Our 7th UU principle is Respect for the interdependent web of all existence of which we are a part. Consider starting a nature altar in your home to make a visual story of this principle. There are lots of resources like this one for creating a nature altar, but you may simply make a space for rocks, feathers, or other items you find and have a connection to.
• Here’s a sweet song version of a lovingkindness meditation: https://youtu.be/RU_Vj0kytFo
• As UUs one continuous thread of our story is that we work to be a faith of liberation. Here are 2 books you might share: All Are Welcome, by Alexandra Penfold, and Aunt Harriet’s Underground Railway in the Sky by Faith Ringgold

Our UU faith in action:

• Become a crayon activist! Check out this story about Bellen Woodward, the world’s first crayon activist, who started something really cool when she was in third grade.
  • Also, her “More Than Peach” crayon packs make great gifts, and some of the proceeds go to packs Bellen donates to local schools.
• Our shared plate recipient for May is the Joan G Lovering Health Care Center. Check out their story HERE.

Dinner Time Discussions: Some questions you might discuss at dinner this month to explore the theme of Story…

• An important part of our South Church story is the collection of our individual stories. Explore answering this during a meal together: What is our family story? If you had to condense it down to just a few sentences, what would your family story be? And what about each member of your family–what is your boiled-down mini story?
• Families often have lots of stories connected to food. What are your favorite family recipes? What memories do you associate with those foods? Do you have any food memories at South Church?

Chalice Lighting for mealtimes this month:

Little Flame

By Kathryn Estey

Little flame,

Light the tender kindling of our souls…

And soon a roaring blaze shall be

Of warmth and love and community.

From this little spark

May a fire of passion spread from heart to heart,

And light our way, sweet spirit.

And light our way.

Upcoming Themes (2020-2021 Church Year)

• May 2021: We are a community of Story
• June 2021: We are a community of Play

Happy Spring, Everyone!

We’ve had some warm sunny spring days, and change is in the air. People are out walking and greeting each other, masses of birds are singing happy love songs, and vaccines are finding arms faster each day. Change is in the air…

As we emerge from winter and a pandemic, what will we become? Our church theme for April is “Becoming,” and it invites us to think about who and what we want to be as these transformations happen. What will we hold on to? What should melt away with the winter ice? How will we come back together, and what do we want to build together?

In Religious Education, we are shifting some of our programming to embrace these transformations. We will be offering more outdoor, in-person gatherings, and we will have opportunities for all of you to reconnect in meaningful ways.

Beginning April 1, we have a congregation-wide, daily “Becoming Challenge.” Participants will spend at least 10 minutes per day sitting outside and completing small activities related to the theme.

We have a new format for Young Church. We have been meeting with our K-5th graders on zoom every Tuesday, but now that the weather is nice, the days are longer, and our zoom fatigue is high, we’ve let that melt away as we shift to some Sunday outdoor, in-person RE times, and some family-inclusive times (both in-person and super fun zoom evenings). We won’t meet every week, but the spaces we have created will be rich and focused on community building.

We will also continue to do our Sunday morning Chapel before worship, 9:00-9:30am on Zoom. If you haven’t participated in this in the past, now is a good time to start. This is a short and very sweet time where we all check in to share what’s going on in our lives, and we always do a fun little something.

See the calendar below for everything going on this month, or CLICK HERE for the Young Church-specific offerings.

Visit the Families Together page to see two April events planned for all of you to connect or reconnect.

High School Youth Group will reconnect around a fire and guide our younger kids in a beach clean up.

Be sure to check out “Will It Waffle?” and sign up to join us for this gastronomic adventure! Open to all, but we do need RSVPs. When you RSVP to jendeldeo@southchurch-uu.org, tell us: Do you have a waffle iron, or do you need to borrow one? And if you have an iron to lend, please let us know!

Also, South Church is participating in the great UU Virtual Easter Egg Hunt! Beginning Friday, April 3rd, you can come here to click the link to begin the hunt where you will search for a hidden egg on a UU church’s website (link will be live starting Friday!). When you find it, click it and it will take you to the next website and you can search for a new egg. There are almost 75 UU churches participating!

One more thing… Please Register your kids for the program year! It keeps our records accurate. click here for the online form!

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What you need to know this month… 

Click Linked Items for additional Details:

There are still many ways to connect with other South church families! Click here for RE Program Information

• Friday, April 3
  • UU Virtual Egg Hunt! (Check back here for the link! Hunt will be available 4/3 through 4/30)
• Sunday, April 4–Easter!:
  • All-Ages Chapel 9:00-9:30a on Zoom
  • Worship on Youtube 10a-11a, sermon by Reverend Susan
  • Classes will NOT meet today
• Wednesday April 7:
  • Morning Poems for adults, 7:30-8:00a on zoom
• Saturday, April 10:
  • South Church Family Outing! 10:00-11:30a, Prescott Park
• Sunday, April 11:
  • All-Ages Chapel 9:00-9:30a on Zoom
  • Worship on Youtube 10a-11a, sermon by Kirsten Hunter
  • Coming of Age 8th grade meet in person at Urban Forestry Ctr 3:00-4:00p, with Mentors
  • Senior Youth Hang out around a fire! 6:00p-8:00p
  • 7th Grade Sexuality Class
  • 5th Grade Sexuality Class meets 4:00-5:30p
• Wednesday, April 14:
  • Morning Poems for adults, 7:30-8:00a on zoom
• Friday, April 16:
  • Sparks & Flames (Grades 5, 6, 7) Dinner Picnic at Prescott Park 6:00-7:30
• Sunday, April 18:
  • All-Ages Chapel 9:00-9:30a on Zoom
  • Worship on Youtube 10a-11a, sermon by Deborah McDermott
  • Grades K through 6 Earth Day Beach Clean Up, 11:30-1:00, Wallis Sands
  • Coming of Age 8th grade meets in person 3:00-4:00p
  • Senior Youth Beach clean up, helping Young Church, 11:30-1:00 at Wallis Sands
  • 7th Grade Sexuality Class meets 11:30a-1:30p
  • 5th Grade Sexuality Class meets 4:00-5:30p
• Wednesday, April 21:
  • Morning Poems for adults, 7:30-8:00a on zoom
• Friday April 23:
  • Family Event–Will It Waffle?? 6:30p(Online) RSVP: jendeldeo@southchurch-uu.org
• Sunday, April 25:
  • All-Ages Chapel 9:00-9:30a on Zoom
  • “Becoming” Challenge check in, 9:30-10:00 on Zoom Meeting ID: 858 9241 3478  Passcode: 113703
  • Worship on Youtube 10a-11a, sermon by Reverend Susan
  • Coming of Age 8th grade-no class today
  • Senior Youth–Mystery Fun and Camping Trip Planning (Online) 7pm https://us02web.zoom.us/j/94596832998 Meeting ID: 945 9683 2998
  • 7th Grade Sexuality Class meets 11:30a-1:30p in person
  • 5th Grade Sexuality Class meets 4:00-5:30p
• Wednesday, April 28:
  • Morning Poems for adults, 7:30-8:00a on zoom
• Friday, April 30: Sparks & Flames (Grades 5, 6, 7) Game night (online) 7:00-8:00 https://us02web.zoom.us/j/84637037944
• Sunday, May 2:
  • All-Ages Chapel 9:00-9:30a on Zoom
  • Worship on Youtube 10a-11a
  • Grades K through 6 Meet at church 11:30-12:30 for Story Workshop!
  • Coming of Age 8th grade meets in person 3:00-4:00p, with Mentors
  • 7th Grade Sexuality Class meets 11:30a-1:30p in person
  • 5th Grade Sexuality Class meets 4:00-5:30p

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*Weather permitting **Tentative, details may change

Families at Home: April’s Theme is “Becoming“

Our UU faith in pratice:

• Join the South Church “Becoming” Challenge! This is 30 days of activities that go with 10 minutes of sitting outside each day. If you can’t commit to the full month, you can choose the days or activities that work for you. For all ages!

Our UU faith in action:

• Our Shared Plate recipient for April is CASA New Hampshire, a wonderful children’s advocacy organization. Find out more and support their work here: https://www.casanh.org

Dinner Time Discussions: Some questions you might discuss at dinner this month to explore the theme of Commitment…

• Becoming is growing. And often, growing into something also means letting go of something. Think about how a caterpillar needs to let go of eating leaves to become a butterfly! Or how we let go of our baby teeth to grow new stronger teeth. Can you think of anything that you want to let go of as we move from winter into spring? How about as we move out of the pandemic–what are you going to let go of?
• As we decide what we want to become, it’s important to keep our values in mind. Values are the things that are most important to us, and they are unique to each person. What are some of your values? (There’s a great set of printable values cards HERE that you can use in different ways!)

Chalice Lighting for mealtimes this month:

Holy is This Place

Rev. Maureen Killoran

Full piece at https://www.uua.org/worship/words/meditation/holy-place

Holy are the places of memory,
the places which have formed us,
where we…gather threads and pieces of what we would become…

Holy are the places of change and pain…
where the rivers of our lives run white and fast, and we hold on, hold on and grow…

Upcoming Themes (2020-2021 Church Year)

• April 2021: We are a community of Becoming
• May 2021: We are a community of Story
• June 2021: We are a community of Play